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"What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which
is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are
bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your
spirit, which are God's." (First Corinthians 6:19-20)
I want to speak on the subject of "The Bible's Dress Code." There
are a lot of preachers who preach on the subject of God's dress code,
that goes something like this: "Well, bless God, this is the way you
ought to dress. And this is the way you ought to dress, because I just
told you this is the way you ought to dress. I just told you this is the
way you ought to dress, because this is what my pastor taught me when I
was a young Christian boy, how a lady or a man ought to dress. So you
just do what I say, because I'm the preacher." And people either do it,
or they rebel against it. But I believe there are a lot of people who,
although they are not interested in the preacher's opinion, who if they
could actually be shown from the Bible what is right and what is wrong,
they would do right. There are a lot of people in our churches who have
been taught the truth but they do not live the truth, because even though
they have been taught the truth, they haven't been taught the truth from
the Bible. They have been taught the truth from opinion. They have been
taught the truth from tradition, but they have not been taught the truth
from the Bible.
I'll give you a personal illustration of this. When I first met my
wife, I basically told her how I wanted her to dress, and she just
thought I was crazy. "Why should I dress like that?" "Because I am your
husband and I told you to." Thank God, there was an older lady in our
church who was able at that time to take the Bible and show her what I
should have been able to show her, as a preacher. If I had been able to
show her from the Bible, it would have saved us a lot of fights in the
beginning of our marriage. There was even a time at the beginning of our
marriage when she did what I told her to do, because I told her to do it,
but she did it begrudgingly. But when she actually saw from the Bible
what God expected, she no longer did it begrudgingly, but willingly. So I
hope to be able to show you from the Bible what God expects.
Many people will say, "Well, God looks on the heart. God doesn't care
what you look like on the outside. God just looks on the heart." That
is true. God does look on the heart, but man cannot see the heart. Man
can only see the outer. Not only that, the outer appearance is usually a
pretty good indicator of what is in a person's heart. Although it is
possible to look right on the outside and be wrong on the inside, it is
well nigh impossible to look right on the outside and be right on the
inside. What is on the outside comes from the inside. That is why Jesus
said, "out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh" (Matthew
12:34). Granted, a man could say the right things, and have a wrong
heart, but a man who had a right heart would never say the wrong things.
So the outer appearance is the only indicator that man has that someone
is right with God, right in their heart. So God does care how we look.
Not only does God care how we look, there are rules in the Bible for
both men and women that should govern our appearance. Now, whenever you
start to talking about these rules, the women are always the first ones
to complain, because there are more rules for the women than there are
for the men. And I often wonder why the Bible has all these rules for
the women and very few rules for the men, and the reason why is because
men and women are made differently. I know that is not a "politically
correct" thing to say, but it is none the less true. God made man and
Men are stimulated by sight. This is why Jesus told the men of His
day, "whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed
adultery with her already in his heart" (Matthew 5:28). Men are
stimulated by sight. Men are always attracted to a lady, physically,
before they are connected to her emotionally. In fact, they don't even
want to pursue the possibility of an emotional relationship, if the
physical attraction isn't there.
Women on the other hand are stimulated by touch. It could be a
physical touch or an emotional touch. So all a man has to do is look at
a woman, and she is stimulated. A woman has to be talked to, and she has
to be touched. And as I said, that touch can be emotional. A man could
talk to a woman in such a way that she is touched emotionally. Or it
could be a physical touch. He could begin to pet her or stroke her in
some way and that would begin to stimulate her. That is why pornography
is sold mainly to men. There is some pornography that is sold to women,
but statisticians tell us that the majority of the pornographic magazines
that are published for women are actually purchased by a man, because
women aren't really stimulated by sight. That is why you can go to the
mall and see some of the ugliest guys with some of the most attractive
women, because they know how to touch. They know how to touch
emotionally and how to touch physically, so the woman is satisfied,
whereas the man has to see something. He is stimulated by sight.
Therefore, God has given certain commands to women regarding their
appearance, so they will not stimulate men. And God has given different
commands to men, such as in First Corinthians 7:1, which says, "It is
good for a man not to touch a woman. And then verse two, Nevertheless,
to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every
woman have her own husband." So while a woman is commanded to dress a
certain way so the man is not stimulated, the man is commanded to act a
certain way, to behave a certain way, so the woman is not stimulated.
That is why the commands are different. That is why the man is
commanded, "Defraud ye not." That is why they are commanded not to
touch. The additional rules for appearance are for the lady's own
protection. They are designed to protect her from the lusts of man.
But let's start with the rules for men. There are basically only two
rules in the Bible for man's appearance, at least that I have found in my
studies of the Scriptures. There may be more, but I've only found two.
In Deuteronomy 22:5, it says, "The woman shall not wear that which
pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman's garment: for
all that do so are abomination unto the LORD thy God." The first command
of God, concerning the way a man should appear is that a man should not
wear a woman's clothing. I don't know too many men who violate that one.
There may be a few, but I have never seen it in a church. And the Bible
does not say that a man who puts on a woman's garment has just sinned,
but that he has committed an abomination. Lying is a sin. Stealing is a
sin. Adultery is a sin. Bestiality is an abomination. Homosexuality is
an abomination. So if a man puts on a woman's garment, he has not just
committed a sin. He has committed an abomination. He has done something
that in the mind of God, is equal to having sex with an animal.
The second rule for men regarding appearance is found in First
Corinthians 11:14, where the Bible says, "Doth not even nature itself
teach you, that, if a man have long hair, it is a shame unto him" The
question is always asked, "How long is long?" Long is the opposite of
short. Let me ask you, sir. Is your hair short? And if you don't know,
then it is long, and if it is long, it is not natural for you to have
long hair. So what do you need to do? You need to go to a barber shop.
"Well, what is short? How do I know if my hair is short?" It is the
opposite of long. If it is not short it is long. "Well, it isn't as
long as some girls' hair I see." It doesn't matter. It is long. "It is
not as long as Boy George's." If it is long, then go to a barber shop.
Get a hair cut. And if you doubt, then cut it off right now, and there
will not be a doubt. When in doubt, do that which is right. The problem
Now rules for women. Again, Deuteronomy 22:5, "The woman shall not
wear that which pertaineth unto a man." Again, if a woman dresses like a
man and a lot of women do, God says they have committed an abomination.
It amazes me, but I do not know any Christian women who would think of
committing an act of bestiality or homosexuality, but yet they would
commit the abomination of cross dressing. The Bible says this is an
The second rule given to women is in First Timothy 2:9, which states,
"In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel."
The third and fourth rule are also in First Timothy 2:9. It says they
should not only adorn themselves in modest apparel, but, "with
shamefacedness andů" then the fourth command, "sobriety; not with broided
hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array." Sobriety is a word that
basically means with moderation.
So let's take those rules and apply them. I want to bring it down to
where you live and why you should do certain things. So knowing these
four rules that God has given to a woman's appearance: Rule number one,
it should not pertain to a man. Rule number two, it should be modest.
Rule three, they should dress with shamefacedness. And rule number four,
it should be with sobriety or moderation. Let us apply the rules to the
different garments women should wear and determine which garments agree
with the Biblical dress code and which do not.
Rule number one. Why does the pastor insist that a woman not wear
pants? There are several reasons. Reason number one is because they
violate the first rule. It is man's apparel. Deuteronomy 22:5 says it
is an abomination, just like bestiality or homosexuality, for a woman to
wear a man's garment. And pants are a man's garment.
"Well, preacher, I don't believe that." Well, you can believe what you
want, but the fact is simply this, in the Bible days, women did not wear
crotched garments. Pants have a crotch. Men in the Bible days wore
crotch garments. Not only that, women in any society did not wear pants
until close to the middle of this century. Pants are called britches in
the Bible, and britches were worn exclusively by men for the first 5,950
years of human existence (which means up until about fifty years ago).
Even the garments worn by men and women in Bible days were different.
The woman wore a long flowing robe, and men wore a shorter and tighter
robe. Underneath the woman's robe would be nothing. Underneath the
man's robe would be a pair of short pants that would go down to the
knees. Whenever a man would have to do some type of labor, such as to
team up an ox, pull a trailer or dig a hole, he would pull up his skirt
and tuck it in his pants that were under his skirt, and that was called
in the Bible "girding up your loins."
"Well, back in the Bible days all the women and men wore robes." Yes,
but they were different robes. Under the man's robe was a pair of pants.
The pair of pants was not under the lady's robes. The pants, or
britches, were worn only by the men. You will never read in the Bible
where britches were worn by women, but will read where they were worn by
Another reason we know that pants are a man's apparel and not woman's
is common sense. Do you realize that you can get off an airplane in any
country in the world, and if they do not speak English and you do not
know their language, you will know which bathroom you were supposed to go
to. Go in an airport terminal, go to the bathroom and you will see a
picture on the bathroom door. It doesn't matter if you are in Russia,
France, Portugal, the United States or Mexico, there will be a sign on
the door it will have a picture on it. It will either have a picture of
someone in slacks or someone in a skirt. Now, if you are a lady, which
of those two doors will you walk through? And if you are a man, which of
those two doors will you walk through? I doubt that even the rankest
feminist would walk into the bathroom that would have the picture of a
person in pants. Common sense tells us that pants are a man's apparel.
It amazes me that a woman would be appalled of just the thought of a
man wearing a dress, but yet, men and women think nothing of a woman
wearing pants. There was a fashion designer a few years back who decided
he was going to come out with a line of dresses for men. The idea wasn't
very popular, so he gets himself an appearance on the Phil Donahue show.
Phil brought all these male models out, wearing the dresses designed just
for men, they paraded them around the stage on the show, and all the
women thought this was vulgar. And, when Phil went into the audience
with a microphone, many of the women made statements that they though it
was preposterous that a man would want to wear a dress. "Don't these men
know any better? Don't they have any self-respect? Don't they have any
concept of manhood, that they would parade around in a dress?" And Phil
Donahue said something that showed that he had more spiritual discernment
than most Baptists do. He said, "Well, they said the same thing fifty
years ago, when women started wearing pants."
So the first reason why a preacher says a woman should not wear pants
is because they are a man's garment, and the Bible says it is an
abomination for a woman to wear a man's garment.
The second reason, pants are not, I repeat, not modest. "Well
preacher, that is your opinion." Yes, but, I can prove it from the
Bible. In First Timothy 2:9, we read that women should adorn themselves
in "modest apparel." In the Greek, the word for modest is the word
katastolh (katastole), and it means a long flowing garment.
Remember I said that in the Bible days, men wore a short tight skirt
and women wore a long and flowing robe. That was a katastole. The Bible
in First Timothy 2:9 tells women to adorn themselves in a long flowing
garment, not a short, tight garment. That is what modest is, long and
flowing. Pants do not flow. I have never yet seen a pair of pants that
flow. Therefore, even if "long," they do not qualify as a long flowing
garment. And since they are not a long flowing garment, they are not a
katastole. Katastole is translated modest. Therefore, if a modest
garment is a long flowing garment, and pants do not flow, pants are not
Also, women are commanded to dress with shamefacedness. That simply
means they are not to draw attention to themselves. And pants draw
attention to the woman's figure. So if you wear a pair of pants, or even
a tight skirt, it shows the figure and it is not shamefacedness, or
modest, because it doesn't flow. It shows the figure and it stimulates
men. And of course, you should not want to dress in such a way that it
stimulates the lusts of a man. Remember in First Corinthians chapter
thirteen that it says, "Charity doth not behave itself unseemly." You
shouldn't seek to do things that would cause someone to fall. Jesus said
that if a man looks on a woman with lust in his heart, he has already
committed adultery with her. Do you realize that if you dress in such a
way that it shows your form and figure, and some man lusts after you, you
have just let him commit adultery with you? "Well, he didn't have to
look." Yes, and he could have also driven blindfolded into a tree
somewhere. Get real. Granted, a man should know how to keep control of
his mind, but women ought not to be tempting him either. So only a full
and flowing skirt qualifies as a katastole, a long flowing garment. So
only a dress or skirt could be considered modest, because modesty is a
katastole, long and flowing. And since pants do not flow, and only a
dress or skirt does, only a dress or skirt can be considered modest. And
since a long flowing garment, a skirt or dress, is the only way a woman
can dress without showing off her figure, then only a skirt or dress
would be shamefacedness.
Now let's apply this to the second type of clothing a woman should
wear. Why does a preacher preach against shorts and mini-skirts? Well,
once again that word modest or katastole, long flowing garment. Neither
shorts or mini-skirts are long and shorts do not flow, therefore shorts
or mini-skirts would not be modest, because they do not meet the length
requirement. A katastole is a long and flowing garment.
The second reason why shorts and mini-skirts would be inappropriate
for a woman is because the Bible specifically says that when a woman's
thighs show, she is naked. Isaiah 47:2-3 says, "Take the millstones, and
grind meal: uncover thy locks, make bare the leg, uncover the thigh, pass
over the rivers. Thy nakedness shall be uncovered, yea, thy shame shall
be seen: I will take vengeance, and I will not meet thee as a man." Here
was a women who wanted to cross a river. God wanted to disgrace the
woman, (If you read the text in Isaiah chapter forty-seven, you will see
why.) so He commanded her to walk across the river, then, to lift up her
skirt so her thigh would show. And God said that when her thigh was
exposed, she would be naked and her shame would be revealed. We read
that she was told to uncover the locks, to make bare the leg, uncover the
thigh and "thy nakedness shall be uncovered."
The thigh goes from your hips to somewhere in the knee. So if a woman
dresses in such a way where that part of her body is exposed, the Bible
says she is naked. Mini-skirts expose that part of the body. Thus, if a
woman wears a mini-skirt, she is naked. And shorts, they expose that
part of the body, and the Bible says in Isaiah chapter forty-seven, if
she shows that part of the body, she would be naked. Well then, if you
wear a pair of shorts, you would be naked, according to God. Therefore
shorts and the mini-skirt would be immodest, because they are not long,
and because they expose nakedness. And as I said, the thigh goes down
into the knee. So the only way to guarantee that the thigh is not
exposed is to wear a skirt or dress that goes below the knee. That is
why a preacher demands that a woman wear skirts and dresses below the
And this should make it obvious that bathing suits are not modest,
that they expose nakedness. You could buy a mini-skirt that only
uncovers three or four inches of nakedness. A swimsuit will expose a
full eighteen inches of nakedness. We think that if we get on a
swimsuit, our genitals are covered and we are clothed. God says no, you
don't just cover your genitals. You cover the thigh. Plus the swimsuit
shows off the form and the figure, and is not shamefacedness. It doesn't
flow. It is not long. It is not modest.
We read that when Adam and Eve realized they had sinned they sewed fig
leaves together. What did they do? They covered their genitals. What
did God do? He said, "No, that is not good enough. You need to cover
more than your sexual area. You need to cover your nakedness." So what
did He do? He slew an animal and clothed them in skins, so their
nakedness would be covered.
Let's go to some other questions. What about floor length
skirts? It flows. It is modest.However, the word used for modest is
katastole, which is long and flowing, and a word that would be used in
the Greek for a floor length gown would be poderis. Since the word for
modest is katastole, and not poderis, the garment has to be long but not
necessarily floor length, since nakedness ended at the knee. Long would
be somewhere in between the knee and the floor, but it doesn't
necessarily have to go to the floor. So if you want to wear a floor
length skirt or dress, that is fine. There is nothing wrong with it, but
it is not absolutely necessary. Just because your skirt goes to the
floor and the other ladies' skirts only go halfway down their calf, that
doesn't make you more spiritual than she is.
What about tight skirts? I see a lot of women with tight skirts. I
went to a Bible college where we had rules. Women had to wear dresses
and skirts. They weren't allowed to wear slacks. But let me tell you, a
lot of those girls wore some pretty tight dresses and skirts. You could
see every curve on their body. Was that modest? No, because it didn't
flow. If it flowed, it wouldn't show the figure. Was it shamefaced?
No, because shamefacedness is to be dressed in such a way as not to draw
attention to the figure. So a modest garment is a flowing garment. A
tight garment or dress is not modest, regardless of how much flesh it
covers. Granted, it may go down below the knees and you are not naked,
but you are still not modest. You are still not shamefaced.
So a woman needs to wear a dress or a skirt that is not just below the
knees, but a dress or skirt that is full or flowing. It is modest only if
it goes below the knee and it is not tight or reveals the form of the
So people say, "Well, what about fashion?" The Bible says we are not
to be conformed to the world, in Romans 12:2. And in Proverbs 25:29, the
Bible teaches us that "the fear of man bringeth a snare." We don't have
to have the latest style. We do not have to be afraid of fashion. But
at the same time, First Corinthians 7:31 says, "And they that use this
world, as not abusing it: for the fashion of this world passeth away."
So we don't want to be a slave of fashion. We don't want to necessarily
spend all of our money, time and resources making sure we have the latest
styles and fads, but at the same time, we don't have to throw away our
clothes because they happen to be fashionable.
You have a skirt and have owned it a number of years and maybe it
hasn't been in style for the last five or six years, but all of a sudden,
that particular style of skirt comes back in style. You don't have to
throw the skirt away, just because it happens to be in style. The Bible
says it is okay to use the world, as long as you do not abuse it. It is
okay to be in fashion, as long as you are not a slave of fashion. And we
also don't have to purposely go to the second-hand store and go out of
our way to find clothes that we know are out of date and not in style.
There are some Christians who, when they go to buy clothes, they go to
the second-hand store and purposely buy a tie that hasn't been in style
for twenty years, because they don't want people to think they are
worldly. The Bible doesn't say that you have to do that. If you want to
do that, I guess it is fine. We have liberty in Christ. You have the
liberty to go and buy ugly ties, but God doesn't put some command on you
that you have to dress a certain way so as not to be fashionable.
Although you shouldn't be a slave to fashion, if the clothes that you are
wearing happen to be fashionable, that is okay. The command of God is to
be modest, that women be shamefaced and dress with sobriety, or with
moderation. So if a garment is modest, if it is shamefaced and in
moderation, and happens to be in fashion, well, God bless you. Go for
What about pretty clothes? It is the same thing. There is no sin in
wearing pretty clothes. In fact, God wants your clothes to be beautiful.
God wants a woman to be beautiful. God wants a woman to be beautiful
for her husband. We read in Proverbs chapter thirty-one that the
"virtuous woman will wear pretty clothes. It says, "She is not afraid of
the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with
scarlet. She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk
and purple (Proverbs 31:21-22). So we read here that a virtuous woman
wore very beautiful clothes. Is it a sin to wear beautiful clothes? A
lot of Christians would make it out to be. They think you have to wear
black clothes. Like the Quaker people, who say you have to wear black
clothes all the time. God never said you had to wear black clothes all
the time. If you want to wear black clothes all the time that is fine.
The Bible doesn't say that wearing black clothes is a sin, but it is also
not a sin to wear blue clothes, gray clothes, green clothes. You can
wear pretty clothes and that is fine. God wants you to be beautiful.
You know, a woman should want to be beautiful for her husband.
In First Corinthians chapter seven it says that the husband owns the
wife's body, and if that be the case, if a woman deprives her husband of
her beauty, she is actually sinning against her husband. That is why God
gave the woman to the man.
What about makeup and perfume? Well, once again, the Bible says a
woman is supposed to dress with moderation and with sobriety. The Bible
says, "Let your moderation be known unto all men" (Philippians 4:5).
There is nothing in the Bible that says makeup and perfume are wicked.
In fact, in the book of Esther, after she had bathed, she anointed her
body (Esther 2:9). More than likely, she put on perfume. Granted, some
who would oppose the use of cosmetics and perfume would point out verses
in the Bible such as Isaiah 57:9, Jeremiah 4:30, II Kings 9:30, Ezekiel
23:40, Revelation 18:12-13, where wicked women wore perfume or wore
makeup. They point out where Jezebel wore makeup, and the whore of
Revelation wore makeup, therefore it is a sin to wear makeup. But we
also see that in Bible days, amongst Jewish women, that the use of
cosmetics and facial lubricants was common. We read several references
where perfumes and cosmetics were used by godly women who loved the Lord
(Proverbs 27:9, Song of Solomon 1:3; 3:6; 4:10, Esther 2:12). Not only
did women who were godly and loved the Lord, wear makeup and perfume, not
only did God never said it was a sin, the Bible describes God adorning
His bride Israel and it says He adorned her with jewels, with pretty
clothes and with perfume. So if God would adorn His bride that way, then
there is nothing wrong with a man adorning his wife that way.
One time a UPC preacher came to me and said that he wished that the
Bible did not prohibit a woman from wearing makeup and jewelry because,
"A lot of women in our church look terrible." I told this to a United
Pentecostal preacher (a guy who had some common sense, because he agreed
with me), that the Bible says the woman is not to adorn herself in these
things. But the Bible also says the woman ought not to have power over
her own body, but that it belongs to her husband. The Bible doesn't say
that a man could not adorn his wife. And when God adorned His wife, He
adorned her with jewels, pretty clothes and perfume. So if a man wants
to adorn his wife, he is at liberty to do so. This Pentecostal preacher
got excited. He went out and got his wife a makeup kit, some perfume and
earrings. People in his church thought he had flipped his lid, but he
just opened up his Bible and preached it like I told him to. I don't
know if they accepted it or not, but they didn't throw him out of the
pastorate (of course, his wife only wore these things at home).
God wants His bride to be adorned. You find that in the book of
Revelation, that Christ's bride is adorned for Him. God adorned His
bride, Israel. And a man should adorn his wife. A man should want his
wife to be beautiful and a woman should want to be beautiful for her
Here is a good quote. Dr. Bob Jones Sr. used to always say this,
whenever he was asked about wearing makeup. "Well, if the barn needs a
coat of paint, give it one." I knew one preacher who used to say, "Some
women wear too much makeup. And it is probably sinful. There are other
women, they don't wear enough and that is sinful too." Once again, the
Bible says "Let your moderation be known unto all men." Women are to
dress with sobriety, with moderation. Obviously, the Tammy Faye Bakker
look would not be appropriate.
What should be the motivation for modesty? Well, we should want to
dress the way God wants us to dress, we should want to look the way God
tells us to look, both men and women, because God tells us to. We should
need no further motivation than that. Just the fact that the Bible says
we should do it, that is all the motivation we should need. But there
are some reasons we should be motivated. One is our testimony. We find
God commanded Israel to be a "peculiar people" (Exodus 19:5, Deuteronomy
14:2 & 26:18, Psalm 135:4, Ecclesiastes 2:8). And you read later in the
New Testament that God wants those who belong to the New Testament church
to be a peculiar people (Titus 2:14, I Peter 2:9). He wants us to be
different from the world. That is why God told the Israelites to dress a
certain way, because when an Israelite walked down the street, God wanted
the people should say, "There is a Jew. There is one of God's people."
When the Israelites came marching through a town, God wanted all the
pagan societies around to know. "Hey, the Israelites are marching into
our town. Those are the people for whom God parted the Red Sea and
drowned the entire Egyptian host. We better get out of the way and just
let them have our land. We will move on down the road." That was what
God wanted. God wanted the world to be able to spot and Israelite a mile
away. They were a peculiar people. And God wants the Christians in the
local New Testament churches to be a peculiar people. The Bible tells us
to. We are to be living epistles, a peculiar people, a chosen
priesthood. People ought to be able to look at you and to know you are a
Christian. They shouldn't have to ask. And by the way, if they have to
ask, chances are you are not going to have much of a testimony with them
anyway, and you are not going to be very successful in leading them to
Christ. They are going to say, "If you are a Christian, and you are just
like me, why do I need to become a Christian, go to church and give my
money?" It is not going to do anything for them. It hasn't changed you,
and you are just like them. You just have less money than they do. You
just have less free time. If we are going to win the world, we have to
be different from the world, and God wants us to have a testimony. God
wants us to be different. He wants us to look different. He wants us to
be a peculiar people, chosen to Himself. That is another motivation for
dressing and looking properly.
For a woman, a great motivation for dressing and looking properly
should be that she is jealous for her husband. First Corinthians 7:4
says, "The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband." The
Bible says my wife belongs to me. She is my property. I own her. That
is really not "politically correct," is it? But it is true. The Bible
says it, and I would not want another man to be taking possession, even
if only in his mind, of my property. I'm very territorial. There is
only one man in the world who has the right to lust after my wife, and
that is Me. And when a woman dresses in such a way where she shows her
form, she shows her figure, shows her nakedness, what she is doing is
taking something that belongs to her husband and giving it to another
man. So you may say, "Well, I didn't go to bed with him." No, lady, but
you showed him something that didn't belong to him. You showed him
something he had no right to see. You showed him something that your
husband and only your husband has the legal right to see. So a woman, for
the love of her husband, should want to be modest. She should want to be
dressed appropriately. And by the way, if you are not married, your body
still belongs to your husband, whoever he will turn out to be.
Therefore, if you go showing it all off because you are not married, you
are robbing your future husband. You are taking something that will
belong to him and giving it to someone else, and that is not right.
So you may say, "Well, I have to show it off to get a husband." You
do that, and there is a good chance that you will wind up with the wrong
kind of husband. If you dress shamefacedly, then the only thing a man
could be attracted to would be your countenance, your face, your
character and your personality. It would take quite a man to become
attracted to that, because men are not naturally attracted to those
things at first. Naturally, the man is attracted to the flesh first, and
the rest comes later. So if you can find a man who, without first having
seen your body, is attracted to you, you have attracted the right kind of
Men ought to care how their wives dress. There are some who may say,
"Well, I don't care how my wife dresses. If she wants to dress that way,
that's fine." If you don't mind her showing her body, I guess that is
your business. Personally, I don't want my wife showing off her body.
If you don't care, well, I have a phone number of a pretty good divorce
lawyer, and you are probably going to need him sooner or later, because I
doubt if you love your wife. Sooner or later, it is going to end, if you
don't care. Obviously, your affection is in the wrong place. If you
really loved something, you would want to protect it. So if it is not
something you want to protect, chances are you really don't love it.
Here are some things to consider. When we buy a garment, if you are a
man or you are a woman, you should ask yourself a question. Is this
garment gender appropriate? You are in the store, and you are thinking,
"Okay, I'm going to buy some clothes." The first question you ask
yourself, "Is this garment gender appropriate?" And men, I hope you are
not in the skirt section. And women, I hope you are not in the britches
section. So you ask if the garment is gender appropriate.
Another question to ask is, men, "Is my hair short?" What is long?
It is the opposite of short. "Is my hair short? I don't know." Well,
let's get rid of the doubt right now and go to the barbershop. "My hair
isn't exactly short, but it isn't long either." Well, long is the
opposite of short, so if it is not exactly short, then it is long. Get
it cut. And the Bible says a woman's hair is her glory. I wonder about
the self-esteem of women who cut their hair off. The Bible says their
hair is their glory. Why would a woman want to cut off her glory? It
doesn't make sense.
Here are some other questions a woman could ask, if they are shopping
for a garment. Obviously the first is, does it pertain to a man.
Secondly, is this garment something that only a lady would wear? In
other words, is it unisex? Well, the Bible says it is an abomination to
wear that which pertains to a man. You should want to stay as far away
from abomination as you can get. If there is any question, if you have
any doubt, then stay away from it and the doubt is dissolved.
Number three, does this garment in any way reveal the thigh?
Remember, if a woman shows her thigh, she is naked. Does the garment
reveal the thigh? In other words, does it come up above the knee?
Fourth, is the garment modest? Remember, long and flowing. Does the
garment go below the knee and does it flow? Is it shamefaced? Will it
in any way draw attention to your form or figure? Of course, if it does,
then it is a garment you need not to buy.
The final question would be a good question to ask, and it is, would I
like to be wearing this garment when Jesus returns? Well, I guess that
is about it. I hope that this has been a help to someone. And I hope it
doesn't make too many enemies, and even if you are mad right now, it is
not because you are rebelling against my opinion, but against the Word of
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